Time for Some Resolutions!

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That’s right.  I’m rocking it old school this year and making resolutions.

For the past two years, I’ve chosen a one-word theme, in lieu of resolutions.  Two years ago, it was “love.”  At that time I was just learning to accept love from those around me, and my mind was beginning to entertain the notion that I might be deserving of it. 2013 turned out to be a year of big changes, and I learned about love in so many different ways.  In fact, love has continued to be my guiding light, and it really could be my one-word theme every year.

My word for 2014 was “surrender,” and this was also very appropriate for the year.  In accepting myself as I am and in accepting life as it is, I’ve been able to grow more than I ever knew I could.  Surrender is really just an extension of love.

And so love will be my focus once again, but I will be making some concrete goals to guide me through this journey to love.  In 2012 I made 5 resolutions.  While I wasn’t perfect in meeting these goals, they did lead us closer to creating the lifestyle we wanted.

At that time, my goals were to eat less poison, get off the grid completely, generate one plastic shopping bag of garbage per month, put together a 12-piece wardrobe for myself, and have Christmas shopping done by January 1.  Some of these goals can be elaborated upon to help me meet my goals now, some of them are not irrelevant, and some are things I will work on later.

These are my resolutions for 2015:

1.  Lose 35 pounds.  Weight-loss had eluded me for years, but this will be the year I make it happen.  I’ve learned that willpower is a limited tool that can be counter-productive in the end, so I will be relying on other strategies.  I will work on staying organized with my meal planning and food preparation–and this includes delegating and using convenience foods (such as pre-made salads) when life gets in the way.  I will also look deeply when I am wanting to snack, so that I can learn to address the emotional need that is leading me to overeat.   I will join the gym that is walking distance from the marina, and begin attending classes there 3 times a week, eventually moving up to 5.

2.  Amass $10,000 in savings.  Living on Breaking Tradition is great, but we will eventually want something with a more comfortable layout.  Our plan is to save up for a center cockpit boat, which we will live on until we are ready to cruise full-time.  Then we will need something faster and more practical for long runs (our dream is to get a cruising catamaran!).  I don’t have a great history with money management, due to disorganization, feeling mentally overwhelmed, and fear of knowing our true financial situation.  There is less pressure now, so I am going to take baby-steps to get more comfortable in this area.

3.  Develop small income sources outside of my job.  If we’re going to cruise full time, we will need income.  We won’t need as much money as I make now, but we will need something.  So I will be experimenting with ways to make money through my writing.  I’m piloting an e-course and will try self-publishing, simplicity coaching, and other creative ideas.

4.  Spend structured time with Beanie.  My happiest memories have been of outings and art projects with her.  I actually joined Pinterest, so that I can find more potential activities!  My ultimate goal is to do an activity with her everyday, but we’ll start with 3 times a week.

5.  Do something social once a month.  I’ve always felt like establishing community was important, but the truth is that I’m kind of shy about actually getting together with people IRL.  So this year, I’m going to do something with a friend–have them over for dinner, go out or coffee, etc. once a month, at the very least.

January is an excellent time to start new habits, and I will be updating you on my progress on each of these goals, at least once a month.

May this be a new year where we all learn to love ourselves better!

10 thoughts on “Time for Some Resolutions!

  1. These sound like some good resolutions, Bethany, for the New Year. I like that you’ve had a theme/word for each year. I’ve never thought to do this, have a theme or word of intent, until this year when I came across a photographer’s website (Karen Hutton) through Hubby.

    She talked about making a statement of intent for the year. So, I felt the nudge and followed her lead making my 2015 statement of intent “Invite the Miraculous”. Funny, how making a statement like this to the world can set a whole new course in my life. I’m excited.

    Wishing all the best for you and yours in the New Year — may all your dreams come true, my friend. God bless and Happy New Year! 🙂

  2. I like your goals – they seem defined and manageable. And as always, baby steps add up, so even on the “blah” days, doing one tiny thing will keep the ball rolling. Like having pre-made salads, which you mentioned. Or just moving $5 into savings. It’s not much, no, but it means you can fall asleep honestly saying “Well, I did *something* towards my goals, and that counts, and tomorrow I will do something else.”

  3. Happy, belated, New Year’s. I am surprised you changed from your word to actual resolutions this year but I can see where it will benefit you in the long run.

    I stopped putting a number to my weight loss because it never happens fast enough and then I get discouraged, I even got rid of the scale a few years ago to help me stop obsessing. I did hear one suggestion that would make me stick to a resolution or weight loss plan. You would need to have very specific “rules” but this is how far some think we need to go to punish ourselves and make us stick to a personal promise. It was by Tony Robbins who said that to stick to your goal for weight loss you need to make not sticking to your diet so horrible that nothing would make you slip. His suggestion was that if you slipped you had to eat a can of pet food. I think rather than punishment for a slip up we need to embrace what caused us to slip and move forward. I’ve had enough pain and punishment for a lifetime and I know you have too.

    • Wow! I’ve tried to hate myself thin long enough, and it’s only resulted in me weighing more than ever. Instead, I’m focusing on how good I feel with the changes I’ve made, how compassionate I can be toward my body, which has gained weight due to stress and misunderstanding. I don’t look at slip-ups as slip-ups. If I eat cake after sticking to it one week, I won’t think “I failed. I couldn’t stick with it.” I look at it as, “Wow, I made it a whole week! Yay!” And eat the cake and get back to it. 🙂 I think it just might work this time.

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