I’m here today to tell you that we are all confused.
Somewhere along the way, we learned that we aren’t good enough. That there is something wrong with us. That everyone else has it together so much better.
That love is earned. That we do not belong unless we are good enough. Respect and dignity are privileges, not rights.
We must set the standard, and we must strive, strive for it. Because right now we’re flawed. We’re different. We’re incomplete, unwhole.
This feeling of unworthiness–which is something that all of humanity faces, to some degree–is probably one of the most complicated aspects of the human condition. I’ve struggled with it. And I’ve allowed you to see my struggle, although not in its entirety. My feelings of worthlessness have at times taken me to some of the darkest and most lonely places possible.
I thought that I was alone in my struggles, and inferior for facing them. Inferior, because my struggles were so persistent, with so much backsliding. Inferior, because at times I needed to lean on others for help and support. Inferior, because I was “unstable,” while everyone else had it figured out, had it all together. What on earth was wrong with me?
You’re agreeing, because we all face that, although to varying degrees. We all feel not good enough. We all think that regrets do anything at all to serve us, and we misunderstand our own nature, believing that ruminating on our mistakes will prevent us from making them again.
Yes, I said “misunderstand.” Because the whole concept of unworthiness is nothing more than a misunderstanding.
The whole experience of life is amazing, and the world, the universe, is far more complex and wonderful than any of us can possibly understand. All of our journey is necessary, including our “flaws” and the habits and tendencies that we will later outgrow.
We should never wish to change anything, because our “mistakes” could possibly have far-reaching positive effects in ways we do not understand.
There is nothing wrong with us. There is nothing wrong with you. We all struggle, and our struggles are actually beautiful, because they allow us to learn and grow. You are not bad; you are not unstable. You just face the same fears as everyone else, and you are still learning and growing.
But, at the core, we are all good, and capable of doing amazing things. It’s only our self-doubts, the limits we place on ourselves, that stand in our way. We are all just fine, in our wholeness, and we should not shy away from the challenges set before us. We should not hide our light.
For me, perceived unworthiness was a fear-based and fear-inducing cloud that limited all of my experience. It is only within the past few days that I have truly begun to emerge from this cloud, and see the beauty in all of life and all of experience.
Dare to look beyond the fog that surrounds you. Dare to believe in your own power. Dare to see yourself with love, as one who is good enough.
Because you are.
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