There are two things to aim at in life: first, to get what you want; and, after that, to enjoy it. Only the wisest of mankind achieve the second.
Logan Pearsall Smith
But Charlie, don’t forget what happened to the man who suddenly got everything he wanted…He lived happily ever after.
Last winter, a friend of mine wrote about having “survivor’s guilt,” because her life was going so well, while so many other people were struggling. She couldn’t enjoy herself, because she was constantly waiting for the other shoe to drop. And it did, weeks after she wrote that. She ended up facing some horrible struggles, that nobody should ever have to endure in their lifetime.
The tragedy, however, is that waiting for bad times to come, did not make them any easier. It did nothing to prepare her, for what was around the corner. Instead, it only deprived her of happiness, when all was going well.
We don’t like to be blindsided. We want to be prepared for whatever will come our way. But is the shock of being blindsided really worse than the inability to be happy, because we’re always worrying about what lies around the corner? Does worrying really prepare us for anything at all?
I was blindsided last January. It happened immediately after we returned from our trip to Madison. Do I wish that I would have seen it coming? The weekend in Madison was one of the best trips I have ever been on. It brought Rob and me a lot closer, and, through the conversations we had that weekend, we discovered some earth-shattering things about each other. I am very glad that I didn’t worry about what was to come.
Right here, right now, my life is perfect. I live somewhere with palm trees and sunshine, my daughter is doing well in school, and I have a job that I love and many good friends. I’m trying new things with my writing, and I’m pleased with the direction my blog is taking.
However, until yesterday, I was not happy. I was not able to stop trying to peek around the corner. Last winter was horribly difficult, and I have been trying to prepare myself, in case something like that happened again.
Accepting “happily ever after” is difficult. We all know that life is about change, and that more challenges will come our way. But I know that last winter, I was provided with the resources, friends, and supports that I needed to get through it. We need to trust that the supports we need will be there, when we need them.
Right now, I’m living happily ever after. There is no longer any need for me to create problems where there are none. I understand that life is about change, but I am not going to waste my time worrying about when and what that change will be. Right now, things are good, and my only responsibility is to accept and enjoy this new reality.
What is keeping you from finding your “happily ever after”?
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