I plan to follow my dreams, and make the move away from the script. But first, there are some things I need to do.
- I need to pay off my house.
- I need to wait until my daughter has completed kindergarten, so we can have a program in place for her.
- I need to pare down my possessions, so that getting rid of them at the last minute isn’t overwhelming.
- I need to save up some money, so that we have a safety net.
- I need to pay off my student loans.
- I need to lose weight and adapt a healthier lifestyle.
- I need to get our house off the grid, so we can save up more money.
- I need to reduce the amount of waste we produce, so that I will be ready to live with limited waste facilities.
If you have a dream, I am willing to bet that you’ve got some steps to follow, too. Steps can be useful. They give us hope, in our day-to-day lives. They make us feel like we’re working toward our dream. They make us feel like we’re moving in a direction.
But you need to realize that they are fake.
Steps slow us down, when we’re not yet ready to make the change. They keep us focused, but they are a delaying tactic. That can be a positive thing. We shouldn’t move forward, until we are ready to do so. And having something to keep us focused can be helpful.
It’s when we start using the steps to hold us back, that they become a problem. When we’re adhering to steps out of fear, it’s time to realize that the steps don’t matter. They are just rules we’ve created in our head.
When you’re ready to let go and follow your dream, then you need to let go and follow your dream. There is absolutely nothing that you have to do, before you do that. Any rules, are rules that you are choosing to have. You can walk away from anything, when you are ready.
I’m obviously not yet at that stage of the game. But I’ve been watching, as my rules, my “steps” to follow have gradually been disappearing. There are some that I’m choosing to keep, at this point in time, at least. But noticing that keeping them is my choice, and noticing how the other steps were limiting me, has given me more control and freedom.