I don’t like country music, as a rule, but I always liked the song “This One’s for the Girls“ by Martina McBride. I always listened to it on my way to student teach, then on my way back to the trailer park. Sure enough, I was “living on dreams and Spaghetti-O’s.”
It is worth noting, however, that she says nothing to the girls in their 30’s. Having been in this decade for 3 1/2 years now, I think I know why Martina skipped this in her song. It’s because there’s nothing bad about this time. There’s really nothing to say, in a country song, about pure awesomeness.
In spite of everyone’s fears about turning the “Big 3 Oh,” I have to say that that it’s been the best decade of my life, so far. I definitely would not want to go back to my 20’s, not physically or mentally. Here is why I love being 30-something:
1. I am definitely not a teenager anymore. So forget being trendy, unless it’s something I really like. Forget cliques and trying to fit in. If I want to be a dork, or a geek, I can go ahead and do it.
2. There isn’t that uncertainty. When I was 23, I wondered if I would finally finish college, find a job, be successful, etc. Now, I know the general direction my life will take. While I don’t know for sure where I will be 10 years from now, I know that I can and have succeeded.
3. Kids are just awesome. Having the Bean has added so much to our adventure. I have a good idea of what size our family will probably be, and I’m happy with the adventures the 3 of us can have together.
4. I am so much healthier now. 10 years ago, I lived on pizza rolls and Mac and Cheese. Now, I’m more educated about nutrition, and have the budgeting skills to make it happen. As a result, I’m in better shape, have better skin, and have a ton more energy.
5. White highlights are so much fun! I got my first grey hair when I was 27, and I immediately had my stylist (who has the most beautiful long, white curly hair I have ever seen) give me some strategic highlights. I quit doing that 2 years ago and have been even happier with those results. Now, my hair has an earthy, smoky look that goes well with my skin tone. Grey hair also looks good short, for a modern look.
6. I have had the courage to find myself. Being this far from adolescence, I’ve had the guts to go against the norm. As a result, I live on a boat in the summer, do crazy things to get off the grid, listen to Indie music, and basically have more fun.
7. I don’t get treated like a clueless kid (as often). I always hated being talked down to, or treated like I had no idea what I was doing. This has happened less and less, the older I get. It is a relief to actually be respected.